Emotionally Focused Therapy EFT
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is a popular modality used in couples therapy. This approach is grounded not only in the expression of emotion, but in the examination of attachments. Attachment theory posits that our early childhood experiences and the nature of our relationships with our caregivers continue to impact and inform future relationships, including romantic ones. Within attachment theory there are different attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, secure). These attachment styles are examples of personality tendencies that may or may not be partially informed by the way we experienced love as young children. A deeper understanding of how formative childhood memories can have long-lasting effects on how we interact with others and the world around us, allows us to change how we respond to situations, as well as how we relate to our partners. It is important to point out that even the most securely attached individuals will experience conflicts in their relationships and that emotionally focused therapy is still a great tool to implement in these situations.