Perfectionist therapy in Philly, Ocean City, Mechanicsville, Santa Fe: perfectionism is more than just setting high standards and working hard to achieve goals. Perfectionism is the idea that if something is not perfect or ideal, then it is a complete disappointment or a failure. Clearly perfectionism ties into the theme of ‘all- or- nothing thinking’...
When therapists refer to a “perfectionist”, they are usually referring to someone who works hard to achieve goals but is chronically unsatisfied with what they have actually achieved.
Perfectionism is related to low self-esteem. The Perfectionist tends to be insecure. Their perfectionism sets them up for disappointment because no one can ever be perfect.
Perfectionists tend to have:
- high levels of stress
- problems with self-esteem
- More medical problems than their peers
- A tendency to procrastinate and to avoid completion of tasks because they feel they have to do them” perfectly”
Perfectionists tend to:
- Pursue unrealistic goals
- Have difficulty feeling a sense of satisfaction
- Moving on
Letting Go of Perfectionism:
Letting go of perfectionism can be a difficult but rewarding process.
- Recognize that perfectionism is an unattainable goal: Perfection is an unrealistic standard that no one can meet. Recognizing this can help you let go of the expectation that you have to be perfect.
- Practice self-compassion: Be kind and understanding with yourself when you make mistakes. Remember that everyone makes mistakes and that it's a natural part of the learning process.
- Set realistic and achievable goals: Instead of setting perfectionistic goals, set realistic and achievable goals that are challenging, but still attainable.
- Learn to accept mistakes: Learn to accept mistakes as part of the learning process and use them as opportunities for growth and improvement.
- Prioritize self-care: Make sure to take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in regular physical activity.
- Learn to let go: Practice letting go of things that you can't control, and focus on the things that you can control.
- Our favorite saying is strive to become a "B" student and focus your energies on yourself.
- Saying No to being a perfectionist isn't easy. Most perfectionists struggle to change their ways. Most perfectionists need help. If you want to work with a Therapist on perfectionism, call 215-922-5683 Ext. 100 to be connected with an Anxiety Therapist today. We offer therapy in Philly, PA, Ocean City, NJ, Mechanicsville, VA, and Santa Fe, NM. We also offer virtual therapy in Georgia and Florida.
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