Quiz: Do I Have A Sexual Compulsion?

These questions prompt you to question your sexual behavior habits. If you answer "yes" to a majority of them, consider seeking sexual compulsive healing counseling with a sex therapist.

  • Do you flirt with people on a regular basis?
  • Is your sex drive higher than your partner’s?
  • When you feel stressed out, does having sex relax you?
  • Do you pressure your partner for more sex then she/he/they wants? Does your partner have sex just to please you?
  • Do you have sex more frequently with your partner than you want to?
  • During sex do you feel “high”?
  • Do you feel irritable, anxious, sad, angry or annoyed when you are unable to engage in the desired sexual behavior?
  • Are you unsatisfied with your partner in bed? Even after good sex with your partner, do you feel unsatisfied or unloved?
  • Has anyone ever told you that your sexual behavior is “too much” or “out of control”?
  • Do you prioritize sex at the expense of getting your work done, or getting enough sleep?
  • Over the years, does it take more sex play and variety to arouse you?
  • Have your sexual relations ever left you feeling sad, hopeless or suicidal?
  • Does each new relationship end in the same way? Are you repeating patterns?
  • Do your sexual desires / needs place you at odds with your religious beliefs / morals?
  • Do you have sex with more people than you want to? Or do you remember the first and last names of all the people you have had sex with?
  • Do you spend a lot of time fantasizing about sex? Are your sexual fantasies better than the real sex? Do your sexual fantasies get in the way of your relationships?
  • Are you preoccupied with sex, or constantly craving it? Does your world revolve around sex?
  • Do you spend a lot of energy flirting with people, cruising online or chatting online? How much time in a week do you spend looking for sex?
  • Do you look at media for sexual arousal? Do you rent or own X-rated videos?
  • Do you spend more than three minutes a day on a computer engaging in sex-related activities?
  • Do you use your work computer for sex-related activities? What would happen if you got caught?
  • Do you masturbate at work?
  • Do you call sex chat lines?
  • Do you engage in phone sex?
  • Do you go to X-rated stores frequently (adult book stores, sex toy shops, sex clubs, etc.)?
  • Do you neglect obligations at home, school or work for sex-related activities?
  • Do you engage in sexual relationships despite potential risks to your health? Are you at risk for a sexually transmitted infection, pregnancy or violence?
  • Do your sexual needs make you have sex in places or with people that you otherwise would not wish for yourself?
  • Do you want to distance yourself from your sex partner after sex? Do you feel guilt, shame or remorse?
  • Do you engage in sexual activities that upset your partner, or would if he/she knew about them?
  • Do you feel shame about your body – or fear touching yourself? Do you wonder if you are asexual?
  • Do you keep sexual secrets from friends and family? Do you lead a double life?
  • Have you ever been or at risk for being arrested for your sexual behavior?
  • Are you sexually turned on by illegal behaviors?
  • Do you fantasize about having sex with children? Or do you have sex with children?
  • Do you have sex with others against their will?

If you are reading this quiz because you think you might have a sexual compulsion, then you probably do, or at least have a tendency toward a sexual compulsion. You do not have to struggle through this compulsion on your own. Help is available.